Grief and Suicidal Thoughts: Serge’s testimonial
The loss of his wife was one of the factors that led Serge to think about suicide. He sought professional support to ease his distress. Today, he is doing better. Watch his testimonial.
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I wanted to take my own life because I lost the person who meant the most to me. About 20 years ago, my wife died while I was in hospital. She had a car accident. It was really hard. Afterwards, it felt like I couldn’t live anymore. We had spent 15 happy years together. It’s very difficult to lose someone after 15 happy years.
I think it’s important to not just sit there when you’re having suicidal thoughts. Most of all, you really have to avoid staying all by yourself. It’s a killer. You obsess and obsess and obsess and obsess. I think isolation is your worst enemy when you’re trying to curb suicidal ideas and impulses.
I had to overcome all that so I could reconnect with my interests and my favourite activities, and also discover who I was. I didn’t know I was a public speaker. I didn’t know I was a writer. I found all that out later.
Good things happen after. They really do. But first you have to figure out how to overcome isolation.
You have to find people you trust and people with the expertise to help and support you.
I’m glad I’m still here, because I’m doing stuff I love. I’m having fun and I’m involved in all sorts of things.
Now, I actually find it hard to believe I was suicidal.
You don’t need to go through that. You don’t need to have it so bad, so intense, so damaging. Find activities you enjoy. What’s your hobby? What do you really love doing? Reconnect with life by doing those things and you’ll see how much it helps.
My name is Serge and I chose life.
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